Dr. Oz is venturing where few dare to tread…into the bedroom and sexual relationships of couples for finding ways to improve their sexual interaction.

Some of the advice is so basic that it makes me wonder why these couples are still married, if they talk to one another so infrequently and spend so little time doing things together. My goodness, some of the stories made it sound as if strangers inhabited the same living space, but barely knew each other. How can sex be good if that remains the case in any relationship? It doesn’t stand a chance.

So what are some better ideas for married couples who want to strengthen their marriage and their bonds in the bedroom. We really have to want our partners and want the relationship in order to devote enough time and attention to this for it to work.

You MUST spend a lot more than ten minutes a day talking with your partner. Honestly, that is barely enough time to discuss the most basic of family matters, let alone begin to rekindle the love and romance that lights up your love life. Plan and create room in your day and evening for several hours, even if you have no idea what you are going to talk about…it will come and it will initiate a new spark that can become a fire of renewed passion and interest.

Here is an exercise which will enchant and mesmerize the two of you: Stand facing each other. Look…truly look…at your partner. See your partner as if looking for the first time. Notice all the nuances, the subtle aspects of the way your partner breathes, throws back one’s hair, uses one’s eyes to tell you when it is time for the next move. Don’t say a word except with your body language. Convey your thoughts with your mind and your eyes. Be playful with a quick glance and a soft smile.

Now…take a step or two until both of you can reach out and take one another’s hands. No words. Only touch. Now spend twenty minutes making love with the touch of your hands and fingers alone – no other portion of your body. Tell your partner how much love and care you feel with the gentle caress of your finger grasping theirs and pulling them toward you.

Become completely aware of the sensation of the touch of your partner. How are you being touched? How are you touching? Be creative and be an artist with your touch. Smile and walk away. Go and sit alone for a few minutes and feel what emotions and thoughts are gracing your mind and heart. Then come together and discuss the experience and compare your feelings.

The most nurturing and enriching action we can do for another human is to provide food and drink for sustenance. So the next week is to be spent in finding ten new ways you can give food, receive food, and exchange food and drink with your partner. Ask what is most desired by your partner and provide it. Nourish one another. Feed one another as if your lives depended upon this nourishment. Be the source of your partner’s sustenance and satiation.

I highly recommend red wine and the finest organic chocolate, fresh wild berries, puddings, vegetables that dip in delicious sauces and dressings, and all kinds of sweet and healthy foods.

Use your imagination. Make this fun and exciting. Go all out and make this the most important moment in each part of your day and evening. Thank your partner for being the source of your enrichment and find the gratitude to know that you have much to give and just as much to receive from a truly interactive dynamic relationship of giving and getting for your mutual fulfillment.

Love is the fire from your active participation in your beautiful relationship!

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